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From enamored to in love
And you, are you ready to love?

And you, are you ready to love?


Author: Francisco Peralta Dávalos | Source: Catholic.net



From enamored to in love
And you, are you ready to love?


"Almost everyone knows how to love, but few of us know how to love," begins the song "Amar y querer" composed by Manuel Alejandro and famous in his performance by José José. The next line of the song says "And is that love and love is not the same", from the lines mentioned we can ask two interesting questions: if love and love are not the same, what are the differences between one and the other? and why does it seem that many know how to love and few love?

Perhaps the answer is that when we fall in love, our brain is responsible for the production of some substances which are responsible for the characteristic feeling of well-being, of an apparent "happiness" that seems to emanate from the simple act of listening or seeing. to the couple, even, on many occasions, from the simple fact of thinking about it.

The two main neurotransmitters involved in the process and stage of falling in love are Phenylethylamine (FEA) and Noradrenaline, so we can say that when we are in love, we are under the influence (naturally) of some substances that make us to perceive reality in a somewhat different way and to make us think and act in a certain way that we would not normally do.

The infatuation is finite in that this stage, on average, does not usually go beyond two years, that is, the feeling of well-being and "happiness" produced by the neurochemical processes of our brain is over, the infatuation ends and we face "reality". It is at this critical stage that many couples end the relationship, mainly those that base their relationship on the level of the sensations simply.



Love, unlike infatuation, is not defined or determined by neurotransmitters; This one uses mainly an act of will, of seeing the other as he is, a person with virtues and defects, to which I freely choose to donate and surrender, sharing a common life project. "True love begins when the euphoria ends and people feel a deep desire to have intimacy and to be loved," says Gary Chapman very well.

Said the above, we realize the differences between being in love and love, and how is that falling in love is just the prelude to love, a very important stage, but the most "simple" to lead as a couple. Loving implies greater complexity in that it is necessary to develop adequate tools for the solution of conflicts, to achieve an adequate coexistence and the pursuit of common goals to have a healthy relationship. To love you need a certain degree of personal maturity.

And you, are you ready to love? 








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