5 Ways in Which You are Destroying your Husband and Ending your Marriage Without Even Knowing it
Author: Katelyn Carmen | Source: http://www.familias.com/matrimonio
When I got married, I was surprised by the feeling of instant and overwhelming responsibility that I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly a lot of the welfare and happiness of someone else would have a lot to do with my decisions and actions.
Women need to be careful with the way we care for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let small details ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life. These are just some ways you could be destroying your husband and ending your marriage (as a warning, please understand that although this article is aimed at women, it applies to men as well):
1. Spend more than you have
A wise woman from my church once advised me: "The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within the possibilities of your husband."
Wives demonstrate true appreciation and respect for their spouse by carefully following a budget and taking advantage of what they have. Be smart with your finances.
Complaining constantly of not having enough money to complete your lavish desires or having debts on the credit card with astronomical amounts is a poor way of saying "thank you" to a faithful husband who works hard to provide for his family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy the Kate Spade bag you've wanted for months, but your husband will love it and appreciate the fact that you honor him and be grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the clutter at home, the neighbors across the street, your clumsy workmate, the old washing machine, and everything that crosses you in the middle. As soon as your husband comes through the door, you put yourself into action and overturn every negative and annoying thought that crosses your mind during the day.
Can you imagine having that load? Negativity is exhausting. Men like to fix things but being constantly harassed with complaints makes it difficult for you to solve your problems.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from marriage, it is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you to be happy, he’ll feel unhappy. It's okay to have a bad day from time to time, it's understandable, but don’t make it a way of life.
3. Have other priorities
When your children, your mom, your best friends, your talents or career are ahead of your husband, you send him a clear message: he is not as important. Imagine it by receiving that message from you every day for many years. What would happen to his self-esteem?
Place your husband first. Although it seems contradictory, I think you’d be surprised to discover that often that is the key to great happiness in marriage. This is why many couples are currently divorcing, because they neglect caring and loving each other and as individuals they place themselves first.
If you decide to give priority to your partner, you will find much happiness.
4. Denying physical affection
Men implore and need physical affection from their wives. The fact that you reject privacy in a constant way wears them down. Sex shouldn’t be used as a form of control over your partner; it must be seen as a sacred tool to bring them closer to each other and to God.
Being loved and needed by a romantic and loving husband who wants to share something so important and beautiful with you - and only with you, is a great blessing. Although it may be that you don’t always feel like it, it’s worth giving in (when you can) and enjoying moments of union.
5. Do not speak your language
Women love to make innuendo (I think its part of our DNA). Do not waste time leaving clues that he won’t understand: Speak clearly. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t stop until you explode. If he asks you what’s going on, don’t answer: "Nothing", and then expect him to read your mind and your emotions. Be open about what you truly feel.