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The importance of praying in a relationship
It seems that many catholic couples don’t practice spirituality in their relationships.


Author: Jorge Vera | Source: Catholic.Net



A while ago, a young woman wrote me asking me for help regarding her boyfriend. They were having a lot of problems and arguing a lot. After a long conversation on Messenger I asked her if she and her boyfriend had the habit of praying together, she said no. For that reason, I recommended her to practice a special prayer for couples, facing the Lord during a week.  At the end of that time, the girl contacted me again and she was happy because her relationship had improved and she and her boyfriend weren’t fighting anymore.

 

But what happened? Why did the fighting suddenly stopped? Because of a very simple reason… by introducing prayers in their relationship, they opened their hearts and God was able to act in their lives in a better way. It’s interesting because the moment they let God act in their relationship they became stronger. As the book Eclesiastés 4, 12 says “One can only be defeated, but two can resist. Besides a rope of three threads won’t break easily” The couple became stronger and they achieved to overcome their difficulties. This is also known as the relationship of three, where there is she, him and God. This is an unbreakable bond.

 

What happens with many couples?



It seems that many catholic couples don’t practice spirituality in their relationships. Maybe they engage in a life of prayer and generosity, each one on their own side but don’t do it often in couple. This can lead to many mistakes! Not praying during a relationship can lead to something good ending. Why? Because a relationship without prayer is not sustainable, is that simple. Temptations are a lot and without a prayer, nothing is certain. Hence, prayer becomes a need. Prayer will hold a couple during moments of proof.


 

The largest problem is that we do not associate prayer with being in a couple. As if they were totally different things but this is not supposed to be like that. For example, when a young person says they will access a seminar, he is invited to discern its vocation by praying. But when a girl says she wants to have a boyfriend, what do we tell her? We will give her all kinds of advice but few is spoken about the importance of prayers. Can you imagine a marriage without prayers? It is something very difficult. It is like going to a war unarmed. You can trust your own strength but facing an emergency, what will you do? You will certainly need support for facing danger. This help is provided by prayer.

 

 

Discerning in a couple relationship

Let’s not forget that a couple relationship is the preparation needed in order to live the vocation of marriage, and as every other vocation, it needs   discerning.  Prayer is indispensable for getting to know God’s plan in that stage because one thing is to be around someone you really like and another thing is to place our wishes in God’s hands.  He knows which person will be good for your life, hence, he can help you choose correctly. Likewise, he will express when a relationship is no good for us.

 

Testimonies of love and praying

A friend told me that ever since he was a kid, he started praying for his future wife. What do you think happened? He found a good woman and now he is happily married. Also, some of the best marriages I’ve known, have that in common: a lot of praying. Time before joining their lives together, they prayed a lot.  Also, I know a couple whom are my friends and they pray the holy rosary every day, without minding the distance because they live in different cities. Besides, they both have plenty of activities during the day and, nevertheless they are not impaired to pray. Therefore, I truly believe that love is demonstrated praying.  Can you imagine a relationship in which you could pray the rosary every day?

 

The happiness formula

With these experiences, I can share a formula to be happy: praying during a relationship is equal to having a good discerning and therefore, setting a good base for having an excellent marriage.


There is no doubt, prayer is key! Every time I see a couple I recommend them to pray because I’ve seen how God acts. He transforms people in love and acts with strength.

 

What happens if your boyfriend is an atheist?

The ideal would be to be in a relationship with a catholic person. But if it is the case, we would have to motivate the other person to have a Deep encounter with God. This is  important because it is a way of evangelizing and giving testimony. The truth is it implies a big challenge. Speaking of God and praying with a person who does not believe is not simple and it requires a spiritual maturity. Let not be the case where the attitude of the atheist transforms the believer and he/she ends up confused.

 

On the other hand, trying to include God in a relationship can be a motive of a breakup. This is a reality. We must be concious of all it implies. We are not saying it is imposible to achieve. There are marriages that began like this and are successful, what we want tos ay is that if a person does not believe, this is not enough to exclude God from the relationship.

 

Benefits of praying during a relationship:

1.    Helps to live in celibacy. Prayer is fundamental for not falling into temptations during the relationship. Saint Paul II used to say “If we want to keep celibacy in a world that considers crazy to love with God’s love, praying is indispensable”. Couples who don’t pray are more at risk than those who do and overcome difficulties. Prayer always holds them.


2.    Strengthens Community with Christ.  “Prayer is Christian since it is communion with Christ” CIC 2565. It is a fact that prayer makes us find God. Therefore, if that relationship does not make us believe in God’s love and does not encourage you to be more authentic towards others, we better find somewhere else because it is not doing you good. Authentic praying will always lead us to find God and men.


3.    Encourages peace, trust and harmony in the relationship. Anyone who aspires a relationship with peace must pray. Evidently our sins and weaknesses cause a lot of trouble. Pausing in a momento of crisis in order to pray helps a lot. As Saint Theresa of Calcuta used to say “The fruit of silence is prayer. The fruit of prayer is faith. The fruit of faith is love. The fruit of love is service. The fruit of service is peace”.  

 

At last, do you imagine couples praying more? How would their lives be? Sincerely, I think their love would be more filled with God and wouldn’t have senseless fights. This would transform their love in prayer and their prayer in love.






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