The acceptance of others.
Author: Humberto Del Castillo Drago |
An important issue that is related to self-acceptance is acceptance of others. This is often a consequence. What do you mean by that? If the individual doesn´t accept itself, it´s not uncommon not to accept the other. If you live fighting yourself, breaking with your being, he will live at odds with others. This is an important perspective as regards acceptance of others.
The idea is to move forward in what is the acceptance of the other as unique and unrepeatable human person, gift to the world. As Edgardo Sosa (1983) says in his book “The Little Prince and psychological revolution" that every human being is a word of God that never repeats. You can find people alike physically, including homonyms or persons similar in character or personality, but in the depths, its sameness, there is no equal. This serves to open up to the reality of the other as being unique.
The human being is different from one another and, of course, approaches the reality differently. The problem is that sometimes we don´t accept that the other is different from us. He forgets to celebrate differences, to value that he is different. It´s different and different is a great opportunity to enrich, build and help each other. Why do you want the other to equal to yourself? Why you want to control the other? Why do you want you’re your friend thinks like you? Worth repeating: the difference, heterogeneity is a value, an opportunity, a gift of life to grow and develop. Philipe (2011) points out the need to educate themselves to accept others as they are, to understand that the sensitivity and values that sustain it are not identical to those of all; to widen and tame the heart and thought into consideration towards them.
It is about accepting the other as it is, with its virtues and qualities but also with its flaws and weaknesses. Already read that accept isn´t to agree. And it´s that you cannot agree with anything bad that the other does, or some defect or sin; but it´s to accept, respect, love and help putting everything in its power so you can improve .
What if one day a son discovers that his father was not all honest and honorable than previously thought and has lived rather deceiving different people? Would he cease to be his father? Would you accept it? Would you be willing to forgive him?
What if it´s discovered that the mother isn´t all that was thought a role model but for years has lived a double life and that even has a son with another man who is not the father? Why not accept her for all of this? What would the child be invited to make?
In more than few years of consecrated life and in contact with other brothers and sisters from different communities, it has not been uncommon to find some who are disenchanted with their communities, some older siblings, including her superiors or founders. Does this takes away their vocation? Is this enough to leave the call that God made them from eternity a reason? It´s considered a call to accept the limits of people and communities, to look with mercy the defects of others, to understand that it´s weak and perfectible human being and that everyone can change and improve. But it´s clear that it´s essential to accept unconditionally the other, it´s accepted as it is. That's the first step, which will be completed with forgiveness.