Celibacy Sounds Incredibly Lonely. Are You Lonely?
I definitely am not lonely! Why not? Well, first of all on the inside I am not lonely because Christ is always with me. And on the outside I am not lonely because I have many "brothers" I work with who all live the same life …
by Father Anthony Bannon, LC | Source:
Q. Dear Fr Anthony,
I try not to think about the priesthood. Not just because celibacy sounds nearly impossible, but also because it seems so incredibly lonely. Are you lonely? And how so? And how not?
A. Dear Andy,
I'll answer your questions first, and then get back to your situation.
I definitely am not lonely! Why not? Well, first of all on the inside I am not lonely because Christ is always with me. As long as you pray and have the Eucharist you cannot be spiritually lonely. And on the outside I am not lonely because I have many "brothers" I work with who all live the same life, are dedicated to the same things, have the same ideals, are willing to help me out just as I am willing to help them, and with whom I can relax. I am never alone in the spiritual battles that are a part of life because I have a spiritual director I can trust.
Now, as regards your situation. You try not to think about the priesthood because of how difficult celibacy seems to be (nearly impossible, terribly lonely). I would just like you to think about this for a moment: your fears are based on what you think the life is like, the way you imagine it has to be. The only way to overcome these fears is to look at the life more closely. If it is not what you are called to you will have nothing to worry about. If it is what God wants you to do, what seems impossible will be possible with God's grace, the help of others and your own effort to correspond to what God wants. Notice that I said "possible" and not "easy". Christian life, whether as a priest or a layperson is never "easy".
- Fr Anthony
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||Published by: Diego Mata
|Date: 2011-11-03 04:38:41
|That is true to a certain point, but if you read the 1st letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians Chapter 7, verses 28-34. It explains the difficulties of a priest being married.
Now if one day the Church allows the priests to be married, in reality, problems won't stop, they'll continue. When one is celibate, one gets to do a lot more things than a married person, yet it doesn't matter which you choose. Criticism will always exist but to reduce that, the world need the evangelization of the Church.
||Published by: RCK
|Date: 2011-01-08 02:40:19
|The real issue is that clergy was never meant to not marry Peter was married. And the RCC states that he was the first Bishop of Rome, the Pope.
Priest were allowed to marry for a very long time till the church out a stop to it.
In the bile, there were rules set down that a clergy were to be married...the husband of one wife. (as well as a list of other things)
I am not saying that all priest should be married. (I know that conflicts with scripture) but I m saying that if the church would once again go back to allowing married me to become priest, a LOT of the problems with getting men to be priest would fix itself in very short order. And the congregations would be much better served.
But as long as they will keep it a closed club, things will get worse for the church, and those that need a priest.